Let’s Calm Down

This is the second of a three-part piece describing the pain of losing a job. To read the first part, go here.


Let’s calm down.

I have no time to be frustrated or disappointed. I have no time for anger. Those pitiful feelings don’t make anything better. I have to move forward.


I have a limited time to transfer my work visa sponsorship now that I have been laid off. My visa allows a US employer to temporarily hire a foreign worker. Because there are many, many rules for work visas, I know must contact my immigration lawyer immediately. I’m not sure what rules will affect my situation.

I know I need to start a job search. My ex-coworkers give me some information on how to seek a job in the US. I promptly create an account on job searching sites and contact several head hunters who specialize in my field. Thanks to the internet, I can easily discover who might have an opening.

Even though I feel quite a bit of shame, I need to let my friends and family know what’s happened because everyone agrees I must use my human network. Fortunately, many friends want to help me. Another place I’ve learned I can network is a community facility or non-government organization such as the People’s Resource Center and DuPage Federation. These organizations have specially designed job assistance programs.

I find it admirable that in the U.S. joblessness is considered a social problem, not merely a personal one.

In addition to starting my job search, I need to review my health insurance. The U.S. has a notoriously complex and expensive health insurance industry. After losing my job, I experienced the magnitude of the problem. COBRA increases my insurance from several hundred dollars to over a thousand dollars a month. Who can afford this health insurance? I have heard that many immigrants return to their home country to treat diseases, and receive medical care. Luckily, I think I have found an affordable solution for my family.

Finally, I have to re-organize the balance of my family’s accounts. Right now, I have no income to fill my bank account, although we have fixed expenditures such as rent, car, and daily meals. I check how long we can sustain our home without any income based on these monthly expenses. Then, I work on re-organizing and limiting the outgoing spending.

I’ve heard it normally takes four to six months to find a job. I have to plan for the worst case scenario. I set up a schedule for a mid- to long- term plan. Not only reducing our family purchases, my wife and I will consider alternative ways of buying to help us save. I’ll change my mobile plan to a cheaper one without changing my phone number and we can use the public library or community center for internet.

I’ve just started this new chapter in my life called unemployment. The chapter started with shock and frustration, but I believe it will finish with a happy-ending. I don’t know how long it will take, or what kind of trouble I will face.

I bet it deepens and ripens my life experience. Time can only tell.

Now, it’s time to start sending out my resume.

One Comment Add yours

  1. Monalisa says:

    Not so long ago my family and I were faced unexpectedly with this same dilemma – unemployment.

    I thought my life would never be “ok” again….

    This was not true. My world grew larger and I spread my wings, the wind carried me to the place I needed to be.

    What I had initially thought as a great tragedy was truly and incredible blessing.

    Hang in there, you will find your way😊👍🏼👍🏼


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